Friday, March 23, 2012

Modifications to the laptop policy

I'm officially "giving up" on this.  Here's why: 
It was not thought through well enough.  While in theory, severely limiting my time on the laptop should be completely beneficial to me and my family, I found that it was instead having a negative impact.  The deal was that I would not use my laptop unless the kids were asleep.  I could always fall back on the desktop if I just HAD to print out directions or pay a bill or something, and that is limiting in itself, because I hate having the kids in the office.  But, what I found happening was one of the following:
  1. On several days, the kids did not nap at the same time, therefore giving me no time to check emails, etc. before 8pm.  Then, I'd want to do it once the kids were in bed, but Tony would be upset (rightfully so), because I should have been hanging out with him.
  2. I would feel isolated, especially on bad weather days, because I had no outside contact with friends by way of email or facebook.
  3. (this relates to #2)  We are just coming out of the "Winter Blues", and I really NEED some "Me Time" to get me through the day.  Sometimes that comes in the form of escaping for a couple of minutes to look at something online, browse pictures I've taken, or check my email.  Not doing this would actually put me in a bad mood, which meant I had even less patience with my kids.
  4. I would cheat.  Then, I'd feel bad.  And we're right back where we started.  (This was especially the case when I was trying to buy and sell several things on craigslist.)
You should also know that I don't really believe in the whole principle of Lent.   I was just using it as a convenient time frame to attempt this exercise.  So after some reflection, I quit for a few days and gave myself unlimited laptop access.  Unacceptable.  Granted, I was coming off of slight withdrawal (I know, this is a stupid computer... should not be such a big deal!), but I really shouldn't have spent that much time with it.  And, now, I'm ready to make some amendments.  Instead of NO access while the kids are up, I'm going to give myself 2 short periods (1 in the morning, 1 in the afternoon) to check in with the world, do any online shopping I need to do (this is remarkably important since shopping with two kiddos totally sucks), and take care of correspondence, bills, etc.  I think this will be a better balance to satisfy my family's needs and my needs.  I guess, as they say with most things, moderation is key.  So, here we go with the new strategy.  If it works through Easter, I just might keep it!

1 comment:

TAV said...

I wish I could do chocolate in moderation (what I gave up this year) but it seems to be an all-or-nothing deal for me. Can't wait for Cadbury eggs on Easter. P.s. We are en route to Italy!!!!